I want to talk to you about taking risks. I'm not talking about risks that can get you hurt or cause you harm.
I'm talking about emotional risks.
See, in life, not everything is always going to go the way you can control it. For me, that's a big word, CONTROL. It was something that I worked really hard to have in my life, especially with all that I had been through as a young person. I figured that if I finally was in control of my life, that nothing else was going to hurt me like it had in the past. You can't control cancer, or your father having a stroke, a heart attack or falling down and breaking his hip, but you can control your daily activities. You can control who you allow in your life, and you can control who you move out of your life.
For me, I look back and I say one of the biggest risks I ever took was when I met my wife, Deborah. Deborah was living in Manhattan and I was living in Connecticut. From the first moment I saw her, I knew that I needed to do whatever it took to keep this person in my life.
I can't tell you how or why. It's just a feeling.
You know when someone always says, "Gee, how did you know?" And the only response you can give is, "I just knew. I don't know how to tell you I had anything else." That's what it was like for me. She was like the air that I needed to breathe, and I just felt like I had to do whatever I needed to do to have her in my life. When we were driving back to New York and this was the second time we've met, she came to my house for Christmas Eve dinner and I decided rather than to let her take the train back, I wanted to drive her all the way back to the city, so we could spend more time together.
I'll never forget, as we got on 87 the New York through-way, she was looking out the window, and she turned to me and said, "I just don't know how this is going to work."
At that moment, my heart sank, and I had a choice.
I could either let it go, or I could speak up and do something about it. In that moment, I realized what I needed to do. I told Deborah that I would do something for her I had never done for anyone else.
I told her I would give up total control.
I would give her total control.
When she asked me what that meant. I said, "What it means is, you'll see me whenever you want to see me. If you ask to see me on a Tuesday evening, I'll finish work, drive into the city, spend time with her, and then drive back." No matter when it was and whenever she called, I would come because I needed to give up control in order to gain control over my emotions...my wants, my desires, and what I hoped for out of my life. I knew that she was what I needed and wanted in my life. The biggest risk I ever took was letting go, was giving up control over how things were going to go. In fact, what I did was, I gained everything!
I'm Michael Ponte, and I'm going to teach you how to take risks. Calculated risks, risks that will help fulfill your inner spirit and soul and turn your life
LEMONS into LEMONADE.